Obviously, rejection sucks. It sucks in every aspect – in our personal and professional lives. However, everyone who does something creative or subjective for a living has to learn how to deal with it because it happens….all the time. At this point in my career I am used to it, but it still is not always easy to brush off. I found out yesterday that I got rejected from a review I applied to. I wasn’t sure I’d make it in, but I had high hopes. I think the trick to dealing with rejection is to feel it for a second, and then move on. There’s nothing you can do about it. It’s over. You’re not getting that job, you’re not going to the review, your boyfriend doesn’t like you anymore, whatever the case may be you have to accept it.
Sometimes though, the rejection is so heavy that it just gets plain discouraging. These are the tough times. I’ve had a couple of these “tough times” in my photo career. It takes everything in me to truly believe that it will pass, that I am good at what I do, and I will get to where I want to be. If I didn’t actually know these things to be true there’s no way I would have lasted this long. I’m only saying this because I truly believe that anyone who wants to be a photographer (or in some other competitive creative field) has to know these things about themselves because sometimes it gets really rough.
I’ve questioned my talent and my relevance within the photo industry many times, and I’m sure I will many more times in the future. I’m not writing this to have people comment and say “No you’re soooo good…reeeeally.” I just wanted to put these feelings out into the world because I know I’m not the only person who has them. My close friend Nina, has written a really good post on her recent ceative blockage and her process of photographing. Being a photographer is one of the best jobs in the world – no doubt – the freedom, the variety, the art, the people. It really is a fantastic way to spend a life, but with all that goodness comes some very intense self doubt.